Excellent examples of couples whose marriage is in trouble with analysis of the situation and suggestions for actions a husband can take to correct the issues.
Love it. Most men don't learn the skill of keeping their relationship alive and keep desire up. I know I haven't. Then I used my engineering background to develop a system to help me keep desire up and catch problems early, e.g. addictions that erode a relationship.
I agree that men should take responsibility for loving, leading, and serving their wives sacrificially—that’s clear from Scripture. But I wonder if this article leans too heavily on the idea that a wife’s struggles must always trace back to her husband’s failings. Is it wise or fair to suggest that when a woman is exhausted, bitter, or emotionally distant, the only explanation is a man’s lack of emotional attentiveness?
Shouldn’t we also ask: what responsibility does the wife bear before God for how she responds to trials, or how she views her husband, even when he’s imperfect but present and contributing? If she were married to an unbeliever, would the same emotional expectations apply? Without minimizing a husband’s role, is it possible that pegging a wife’s peace or maturity to her husband's emotional performance, putting a burden on his back that isn't entirely his to bear??
Great work as always
Well done Will. Really thorough with the sources.
Excellent examples of couples whose marriage is in trouble with analysis of the situation and suggestions for actions a husband can take to correct the issues.
Love it. Most men don't learn the skill of keeping their relationship alive and keep desire up. I know I haven't. Then I used my engineering background to develop a system to help me keep desire up and catch problems early, e.g. addictions that erode a relationship.
I agree that men should take responsibility for loving, leading, and serving their wives sacrificially—that’s clear from Scripture. But I wonder if this article leans too heavily on the idea that a wife’s struggles must always trace back to her husband’s failings. Is it wise or fair to suggest that when a woman is exhausted, bitter, or emotionally distant, the only explanation is a man’s lack of emotional attentiveness?
Shouldn’t we also ask: what responsibility does the wife bear before God for how she responds to trials, or how she views her husband, even when he’s imperfect but present and contributing? If she were married to an unbeliever, would the same emotional expectations apply? Without minimizing a husband’s role, is it possible that pegging a wife’s peace or maturity to her husband's emotional performance, putting a burden on his back that isn't entirely his to bear??
This man is overworking his wife and doing basically nothing to fix the problems in his marriage -- just drinking.
Her comment 'I'm sick of taking the lead in our relationship' sums up his failings well.
You seem inclined to want the wife to be tougher. That's generally a bad idea in marriage.