That' great advice Will. I like the references to the council of Trent and the comment by Pope Francis. I find in married life, things can get very predictable and monotonous if men lose their thumos for life. Outside of work, men need to keep challenging themselves to grow spiritually, physically, emotionally, intellectually, otherwise they become boring with little to talk about.
For my case, we are still dating for more than 12 months.
(Of late) Most of the time she complains about problems at work (poor management, customer service, etc). She can go on for over an hour on this topic every few days.
I offer solutions to her, but she doesn't action them then the cycle continues and we don't get anywhere. She doesn't seem to want to act on the practical solutions I recommended even though we agreed that it makes sense.
I tend to then divert the conversation to another topic which often restores the warm atmosphere.
Appreciate. My personal concern is that, what if you start listening and you *don't* actually care? That could be passing as you develop, no need to jump the gun in assuming. However, what if? Then things wouldn't already be slack unless something was already wrong, a mismatch to begin with.
That' great advice Will. I like the references to the council of Trent and the comment by Pope Francis. I find in married life, things can get very predictable and monotonous if men lose their thumos for life. Outside of work, men need to keep challenging themselves to grow spiritually, physically, emotionally, intellectually, otherwise they become boring with little to talk about.
Very true
Important advice there.
I'm ever thankful for this detailed guide.
For my case, we are still dating for more than 12 months.
(Of late) Most of the time she complains about problems at work (poor management, customer service, etc). She can go on for over an hour on this topic every few days.
I offer solutions to her, but she doesn't action them then the cycle continues and we don't get anywhere. She doesn't seem to want to act on the practical solutions I recommended even though we agreed that it makes sense.
I tend to then divert the conversation to another topic which often restores the warm atmosphere.
Why are you still dating after 12 months?
We're in the process of getting engaged. I'll be visiting her parents in the next few months.
They are expecting me so we're planning for this.
After that, it's a traditional wedding which seals the engagement.
Then the main wedding which completes the union.
Appreciate. My personal concern is that, what if you start listening and you *don't* actually care? That could be passing as you develop, no need to jump the gun in assuming. However, what if? Then things wouldn't already be slack unless something was already wrong, a mismatch to begin with.