What are your thoughts on a man dating or marrying a woman who is around a year older (provided that they are both persons of virtue)? Is that risky in that it potentially gives the woman a temptation or an added difficulty with submitting to the slightly younger (and thus ostensibly or perceivably less wise) man? Ought the man to be older for such reasons as this?
I’ve often thought about this. My (soon-to-be) wife is 10 months older than me and she has a younger brother. So far, she hasn’t displayed any show of authority over me or tried to boss me around and I highly doubt that she ever would because I established frame from the very start + we’re both catholics so she understands family hierarchy etc + we’re about to start marriage prep classes which should cover this.
I’ve heard it said before that marrying a woman who is the youngest of siblings (or at least has 1 older sibling) is beneficial to maintaining frame in a relationship as they haven’t been in that position of authority over their siblings, thus won’t bring it in to your relationship. There may be some merit to that 🤷🏻♂️
In my opinion, the shorter the age gap the better.
I win all the small battles, so that doesn't happen. My kids just say they're tired sometimes or need reminding to concentrate properly.
If you're being tested in a major way, you've already made a thousand mistakes. Most parents are too soft on their kids as toddlers, so the kids turn into teenagers who don't take them seriously.
Discipline should mainly be done through increasingly threatening tone and body language. If you're a man who goes to the gym, this is usually easy to do. Some extremely stubborn children might require mild physical correction - but generally not.
Good stuff. I've fallen into the trap of making my routine too intense many times. I've also indulged in the fantasy that I can completely transform my life in 90 days. Currently, I'm trying for a more modest routine and hope to stack the gains from consistency rather than excessive and short term effort, as you advocate.
For me... 4 or 5 daily habits seem to be the maximum that I can keep up without starting to fall off. More than that and I can keep going until one bad day sends me back into a run.
I just say the Lord's Prayer while lying down in bed. I have all my morning lessons prepared from the day before, and I generally make students begin each lesson with a task that doesn't require much input from me so I can review their homework and notes. Feedback on that then starts the lesson proper.
Could you describe a bit more how the whole family prays the Rosary?
What are your thoughts on a man dating or marrying a woman who is around a year older (provided that they are both persons of virtue)? Is that risky in that it potentially gives the woman a temptation or an added difficulty with submitting to the slightly younger (and thus ostensibly or perceivably less wise) man? Ought the man to be older for such reasons as this?
Hi John David.
I’ve often thought about this. My (soon-to-be) wife is 10 months older than me and she has a younger brother. So far, she hasn’t displayed any show of authority over me or tried to boss me around and I highly doubt that she ever would because I established frame from the very start + we’re both catholics so she understands family hierarchy etc + we’re about to start marriage prep classes which should cover this.
I’ve heard it said before that marrying a woman who is the youngest of siblings (or at least has 1 older sibling) is beneficial to maintaining frame in a relationship as they haven’t been in that position of authority over their siblings, thus won’t bring it in to your relationship. There may be some merit to that 🤷🏻♂️
In my opinion, the shorter the age gap the better.
Just thought I’d share!
"If my teenage son is being effeminate and slouching because he’s tired, I will make him say the whole thing standing up without fidgeting at all.
If anyone complains about any of this, I don’t argue with them: I just ignore them and repeat the fact that we’re doing it."
What do you do if they don't do what you've asked them to do and continue not to after you've asked them again?
I win all the small battles, so that doesn't happen. My kids just say they're tired sometimes or need reminding to concentrate properly.
If you're being tested in a major way, you've already made a thousand mistakes. Most parents are too soft on their kids as toddlers, so the kids turn into teenagers who don't take them seriously.
Discipline should mainly be done through increasingly threatening tone and body language. If you're a man who goes to the gym, this is usually easy to do. Some extremely stubborn children might require mild physical correction - but generally not.
Good stuff. I've fallen into the trap of making my routine too intense many times. I've also indulged in the fantasy that I can completely transform my life in 90 days. Currently, I'm trying for a more modest routine and hope to stack the gains from consistency rather than excessive and short term effort, as you advocate.
For me... 4 or 5 daily habits seem to be the maximum that I can keep up without starting to fall off. More than that and I can keep going until one bad day sends me back into a run.
It's your habits over 10+ years that will transform your life.
It doesn't matter how many times you eat per day. Only total calories really matters.
Not really. I normally relax or do things around the house.
I just say the Lord's Prayer while lying down in bed. I have all my morning lessons prepared from the day before, and I generally make students begin each lesson with a task that doesn't require much input from me so I can review their homework and notes. Feedback on that then starts the lesson proper.
I should probably say more morning prayers. But I'm more consistent with this approach.