Hi Will. I took my wife to a Christian music concert that she wanted to attend. She gets very excited about these things and she wishes I would too. She knows that I don't care for music but she appreciates that I spend time with her and I sway to the music a little bit, but I don't have desire for the music like others do. Aside from simply enjoying her company while she sings along, is there something else I can do to enjoy our time together?
I have been dating a woman for five months and we would like to get married. She saw me give hugs to a woman (who is my boss) at a farewell/graduation ceremony for my teaching job last week and had profound desolation because of that. She knows that I was only responding to this lady's hug and that I didn't initiate them but this still brought her discomfort and she believes that touching or hugging people of the opposite sex is inappropriate, regardless of the culture. She basically said that she couldn't continue with me if I hug other women even if I'm just giving them back. This is contrary to our culture and background, as we are of Mexican descent where hugging and even kissing people of the opposite sex is common. I'm feeling inclined as of now to move toward that direction of not touching others of the opposite sex despite this.
Do you think that it is reasonable do practice this principle, and how do you suggest going about it if a woman reaches me for a hug or if a man reaches her for a hug?
I have not proposed to her, though would like to soon.
Hugging other women is not important to me at all. I have only done it to be nice when I receive them and not appear rude if I don't want to reciprocate a hug, though I'd prefer not to, if given a choice.
I know it’s not necessary for it to be enjoyable. That’s why it’s called “work”. But if a man can find something that he enjoys doing then why not pursue that? Gandhi says “If you love what you do, you’ll never work a day in your life”.
My wife is pregnant and she got pregnant a little overweight. She’s 5’5, and she started at 160 lbs and now with 4 months shes at 166. How would you recommend me to work on this? I think if she gains 2.5 per month it’s good but i want to get her to 140 after she gives birth?
Hey Will, I was able to "retire" my wife from her desk job. I really wanted her to be home. She still works from home but it is part time and allows her to use her graduate degree. Recently, I have noticed that my wife seems to not be able to handle anything. Everything is a stress inducer. This is not the women I married. She grew up on a farm, she has worked two jobs for most of the time that I have known her, and she was very career oriented before we got married. Now, everything seems like a chore to her (going to a regular checkup at the doctor draws a complaint). She still gets up relatively early, she works out at home, and maintains a somewhat regular schedule. She doesn't clean much, she doesn't really cook, she frequently doesn't buy groceries or plan meals. I am working three jobs. I feel like I ask very little of her (I maintain the home, the finances, etc.). I feel like I need to communicate my expectations without sounding like I am complaining or a martyr. How do I do that?
Hey what’s up Will. How did you go about creating your online presence? Also I’m a personal trainer going to online training. I’m married as well. How do I go about getting the audience I’m after without taking my shirt off to show my results? Or is that not a big deal?
Hi Will. I took my wife to a Christian music concert that she wanted to attend. She gets very excited about these things and she wishes I would too. She knows that I don't care for music but she appreciates that I spend time with her and I sway to the music a little bit, but I don't have desire for the music like others do. Aside from simply enjoying her company while she sings along, is there something else I can do to enjoy our time together?
Have you asked her if there’s anything else she needs from you at these events?
No, I haven't asked her that but I will do so. She usually can come up with a suggestion for something that we both will enjoy.
I mean ask her if she wants anything from you at music events apart from what you're already doing.
I have been dating a woman for five months and we would like to get married. She saw me give hugs to a woman (who is my boss) at a farewell/graduation ceremony for my teaching job last week and had profound desolation because of that. She knows that I was only responding to this lady's hug and that I didn't initiate them but this still brought her discomfort and she believes that touching or hugging people of the opposite sex is inappropriate, regardless of the culture. She basically said that she couldn't continue with me if I hug other women even if I'm just giving them back. This is contrary to our culture and background, as we are of Mexican descent where hugging and even kissing people of the opposite sex is common. I'm feeling inclined as of now to move toward that direction of not touching others of the opposite sex despite this.
Do you think that it is reasonable do practice this principle, and how do you suggest going about it if a woman reaches me for a hug or if a man reaches her for a hug?
If you would like to get married, have you proposed to her?
And how important is hugging other women to you?
I have not proposed to her, though would like to soon.
Hugging other women is not important to me at all. I have only done it to be nice when I receive them and not appear rude if I don't want to reciprocate a hug, though I'd prefer not to, if given a choice.
Why not propose now?
And you always have a choice.
How can a young man find the career path that is lucrative and enjoyable for him? How can he find his strengths and figure out what he is good at?
Work doesn't need to be enjoyable. And comparing yourself against other men should make your strengths and weaknesses clear.
I know it’s not necessary for it to be enjoyable. That’s why it’s called “work”. But if a man can find something that he enjoys doing then why not pursue that? Gandhi says “If you love what you do, you’ll never work a day in your life”.
I don't care what Gandhi said.
You asked about how to find something 'lucrative and enjoyable.'
What you'll find is that those things generally don't go together.
It's also important to remember that most people don't enjoy their work at all, and Scripture makes it clear why that is.
I don’t care what Gandhi says either. I was just telling you where I got the idea that work could be enjoyable.
What are you referring to in scripture?
Also what are a few books you would recommend every young man read at some point in his life?
You seem to be taking Gandhi's idea of loving work seriously.
The Biblical story of the Fall explains why work isn't supposed to be enjoyable.
I don't think there's a list of books every young man needs to read.
That makes sense. I suppose when a man finds his strengths and works a job that allows him to use those strengths, he will find it enjoyable.
Not necessarily. Where did you get the idea that work is supposed to be enjoyable?
Hi Will, my wife is pregnant and our baby will be a girl. What advice would you give us ? It’s all so new for us
Congratulations. What are you unsure about?
Thanks Will ! I'm worried about how hard it will be to raise a daughter in today's world. But with the grace of God we'll get through it.
What specifically about raising a daughter are you worried about?
My wife is pregnant and she got pregnant a little overweight. She’s 5’5, and she started at 160 lbs and now with 4 months shes at 166. How would you recommend me to work on this? I think if she gains 2.5 per month it’s good but i want to get her to 140 after she gives birth?
Why 140? Talk to her about healthy eating.
Hey Will, I was able to "retire" my wife from her desk job. I really wanted her to be home. She still works from home but it is part time and allows her to use her graduate degree. Recently, I have noticed that my wife seems to not be able to handle anything. Everything is a stress inducer. This is not the women I married. She grew up on a farm, she has worked two jobs for most of the time that I have known her, and she was very career oriented before we got married. Now, everything seems like a chore to her (going to a regular checkup at the doctor draws a complaint). She still gets up relatively early, she works out at home, and maintains a somewhat regular schedule. She doesn't clean much, she doesn't really cook, she frequently doesn't buy groceries or plan meals. I am working three jobs. I feel like I ask very little of her (I maintain the home, the finances, etc.). I feel like I need to communicate my expectations without sounding like I am complaining or a martyr. How do I do that?
How old is she?
She is 42. I'm 38.
Has she had blood tests / hormone checks recently?
Not recently. That's a great idea.
She might be menopausal.
Hey what’s up Will. How did you go about creating your online presence? Also I’m a personal trainer going to online training. I’m married as well. How do I go about getting the audience I’m after without taking my shirt off to show my results? Or is that not a big deal?
Why are you assuming you need to take your top off? Look at how trainers who don't do this sell their services.
Most of the guys that sell the idea of getting ripped show their own results.
Not really. You just need to show your clients' results. And getting 'ripped' isn't even a healthy goal in most cases.
I've been on a catholic job for almost two years.
It's been pretty fruitful spiritually but now it has become increasingly harder to the point that I'm working 12 hour days.
I've been feeling that now it's been too much on me.
I talk to me boss about it and he told me to keep going like this.
What would you recommend?
How many hours are you contracted to work?
8
Do you get paid overtime for working 12?
No
So talk to your boss about just working 8.
What are you worried about?