Hey Will, I was actually just thinking about something that I thought I'd run by you. I have 4 sons 9, 7, 3, and almost 1. I've had a rule for them that was a rule for me growing up and I was wondering if I could get your take.
I've told the older siblings that they are never, under any circumstance to lay a hand on their younger brothers and that it will result in an automatic disciplining. I've told them that I'll handle the younger one if he hits them. I've done this many times.
Well it turns out that today it just happened. My 7 year old kicked my 3 year old and hit him in the head. The story goes, that the 3 year old (who likes to hit his older brothers) punched the 7 year old twice in the stomach, which lead to the head-kick. I was really upset when I heard this so they were both in trouble but afterwards I was really thinking about it.
Am I coddling them? Am I not letting the little one learn what happens when you hit a kid that is twice your size? Or am I being a good father and enacting punishments where needed simply because of the age gap. And what of the older brother, am I teaching him that its ok for him not to defend himself?
I would love your take on this. I'm seriously considering all opinions as I'm not sure if this is a good and normal family rule. Thanks!
My question is on the relationship of man and woman. I know it’s a partnership of unequals, but I have heard scripture from the Catholic feminists, specifically genesis 1:27 and Paul’s comments on it. I hear from you and the CMASC guys that women aren’t made in the image of God but that passage would seem to go against that. I just am curious if you could share the sources and church teachings on this.
Also, if you aren’t married to a woman, how do you respond when they try to boss you around? I think of my Mom and sister the most, but also some female friends. Now I don’t let it slide but I feel like I usually come off as an asshole rather than a masculine man lol. I’m only 19 and trying my best, thanks for your time.
Thanks. Women are made in the image of God. Only men are FULLY made in the of God. That's why Scripture says man is the glory of God, but woman is the glory of man.
If you're living at home with your mum, be mindful of the fact that you should still be obedient to her. But if you genuinely think she's being unreasonable about something, communicate your concerns clearly and calmly.
What do you think it is about your writing that resonates with so many non-Christian men?
Another way of putting this question is why do you think your channel is able to reach this audience more effectively than other pages spreading similar truths? Congrats on the latest milestone.
Do you have a trainer or you always did your own training, Will ? Do you still train everyday ? I feel like I hit a plateau in my lifting routine and all these fitness guys are blasting on gear and don’t give really practical advice like you do
We ghosted each other or she just became extremely annoyingly lustful. I had turned down opportunities to hook up in the past. I regret turning down the opportunity to hook up sometimes. Im 27, dirty blonde hair, blue eyes, square jaw, 5’7. I have received compliments on the width of my back. I do weights and long distance runs. Im by no means shredded nor fat. I am getting vascular in my arms and in my upper left pectoral. I get acne breakouts at times. All of my experiences were from online dating apps. I don’t feel very confident in myself and I dont really have a social life at all. But right now I seem to be struggling.
Hey Will, I believe I often speak to my wife in a mundane way and seen you advise against that.
A lot of my focus is on very mundane, technical things and I’m not sure what topics should be the focus when talking to my wife. Sounds silly to have a checklist for this, but are there top topics to focus on?
Similarly, when trying to navigate talking through my wife’s feelings, I am getting better at naming emotions, but then I don’t know what to do from there. I’ll jump to solving problems but that is not what she’s looking for. However, if I’m not implementing a solution then she will try to implement something and impose on the rest of the family.
Yes, St John Chrysostom warned husbands against speaking to wives in a mundane way.
It sounds like you need to work on being closer friends with your wife so you understand what interests her better and can excite and influence her more.
That's really all leadership is.
I'd need to know your situation properly to advise you correctly. That's what we do the coaching program for.
Congrats on the 6k. I've enjoyed your videos for a while and I admire the road you've taken since your cancellation, you are an inspiration. We are the same age and from the same country but we live very different lives. I, for instance, moved abroad and have very few family members, whereas I believe you've made quite a large family! I hope you are all very well.
1) TRT or natty for a man approaching his 40s?
2) I believe matter is animated by a vital force, but admiring and being raised (weakly) in the Christian tradition, my rational mind doesn't allow me to believe specifically in a Christian God. How do you view this?
3) Have you ever had anxiety? Do you have any thoughts on eliminating it.
4) Would you ever consider returning to teaching within the UK education system?
Hey Will! Congrats with 6000 subs! I hope to subscribe to you as well!
You’re an inspiration to me! Thank you for sharing the message of what it means to be a strong and Godly man through being a husband and father.
My question is, how do I tell my parents I want to marry young? I have a girlfriend who I’ve been dating since high school (will turn 23 this May) and I want to marry her next year.
For context, I don’t think my parents will approve my decision because “I’m too young” and “I shouldn’t take life seriously” but to “enjoy life and travel, and spend my earned money” and marry until I’m my late 20s, because “marriage and having children is a trap”
I don’t think it’s because of finances; because I earn a lot for my age and am confident in excelling in my career; and I don’t think it’s because I’m not mature enough either. I’m confident I can take the pressure of being a father and husband by God’s grace and guidance, and they know I’m striving to be holy and competent.
What I believe is because they’re attached to me (especially my Dad); and don’t want me to leave and be independent.
Tried my best to shared the context of my question - God bless to you and your family!
Hey Will! Appreciate the prompt response; that’s a great insight
I don’t think I’m afraid of my parents. I honestly think Mom is expecting for me to get married. Rather, I feel pity for my Dad specifically — he isn’t the best patriarch; Mom always carried the burden in our family, earned more, and lead, since they got married. As a result she doesn’t really respect him, and I’m afraid if I leave, both of them will separate and eventually divorce.
I know I’m not responsible for their happiness, marriage, and the state of their soul, but it breaks my heart once I leave, they’re “stuck” with each other.
I believe that getting married young will perhaps help them in some way because I believe that’s what God calls me to do. Nothing will change much if I stay. But it is hard to have faith in that promise.
Of course, I want their approval, because my culture is deeply family-oriented, and I know if I get the disapproval of my Dad, my whole extended family will as well.
Nevertheless, I think it’s just a matter of practicing courage at this moment. I know I don’t have to complicate, but trust His will for me
Yes, you're spot on. I was honestly seeking an answer where I can inform them, while also getting them to give their blessing, AND they'll live happily together. But I have to accept the reality that maybe they won't approve of my decision. Thank you! Please pray that I may have courage and perseverance
By the way, congratulations on the 6000 subscribers, very well deserved !!
Will I try will hyperviglance a bit and can have a strong stare am trying my best to lower my Gaze but it causes me problems any advice?
Find ways to reduce your anxiety. Get professional help if necessary.
Hey Will, I was actually just thinking about something that I thought I'd run by you. I have 4 sons 9, 7, 3, and almost 1. I've had a rule for them that was a rule for me growing up and I was wondering if I could get your take.
I've told the older siblings that they are never, under any circumstance to lay a hand on their younger brothers and that it will result in an automatic disciplining. I've told them that I'll handle the younger one if he hits them. I've done this many times.
Well it turns out that today it just happened. My 7 year old kicked my 3 year old and hit him in the head. The story goes, that the 3 year old (who likes to hit his older brothers) punched the 7 year old twice in the stomach, which lead to the head-kick. I was really upset when I heard this so they were both in trouble but afterwards I was really thinking about it.
Am I coddling them? Am I not letting the little one learn what happens when you hit a kid that is twice your size? Or am I being a good father and enacting punishments where needed simply because of the age gap. And what of the older brother, am I teaching him that its ok for him not to defend himself?
I would love your take on this. I'm seriously considering all opinions as I'm not sure if this is a good and normal family rule. Thanks!
It sounds like they all need clearer expectations and consequences.
You grew up with the rule you're having doubts about, so reflect on your own experience of it.
Hey Will. Congrats on 6k.
My question is on the relationship of man and woman. I know it’s a partnership of unequals, but I have heard scripture from the Catholic feminists, specifically genesis 1:27 and Paul’s comments on it. I hear from you and the CMASC guys that women aren’t made in the image of God but that passage would seem to go against that. I just am curious if you could share the sources and church teachings on this.
Also, if you aren’t married to a woman, how do you respond when they try to boss you around? I think of my Mom and sister the most, but also some female friends. Now I don’t let it slide but I feel like I usually come off as an asshole rather than a masculine man lol. I’m only 19 and trying my best, thanks for your time.
Thanks. Women are made in the image of God. Only men are FULLY made in the of God. That's why Scripture says man is the glory of God, but woman is the glory of man.
If you're living at home with your mum, be mindful of the fact that you should still be obedient to her. But if you genuinely think she's being unreasonable about something, communicate your concerns clearly and calmly.
Do you have a mobility routine for squats? I can't sit 90 degrees.
How do you structure your prayer life?
How much of my sexual past should I share with a woman I am courting, and at what time in the courting process?
How to be more fun to be around as a man without being inappropriately/overly flirtatious?
Congratulations on 6k and God bless you and your family.
Thanks for reading.
Squatting gives you the mobility you need for squatting.
The Church doesn't teach that you need a particular structure to your prayer life.
It depends on how much she wants to know and how much you want to share.
Be interesting.
What do you think it is about your writing that resonates with so many non-Christian men?
Another way of putting this question is why do you think your channel is able to reach this audience more effectively than other pages spreading similar truths? Congrats on the latest milestone.
I'm not sure. Maybe one of them will answer.
How’s your prayer routine when you first get up in the morning ?
I pray the rosary daily, but nobody HAS to do that. And the Church doesn't teach that you need any particular prayer routine for the morning.
Do you have a trainer or you always did your own training, Will ? Do you still train everyday ? I feel like I hit a plateau in my lifting routine and all these fitness guys are blasting on gear and don’t give really practical advice like you do
If you're not making progress then you might need help from someone who knows more about programming than you do.
It's also possible you're not actually training hard even though you think you are.
What makes a man below average? Should men really date women they’re not attracted to? I disagree that men should not date women they’re not attracted
to. That could cause resentment and a dead bedroom
Are you having trouble attracting a woman you find attractive?
Dating apps can give me mixed results as to how attractive my matches are
So what can I do to improve my chances if I am in a dry spell right now
Why didn't things work out with the last girl you found attractive who was interested in you?
They were more situationships than anything in the past.
We ghosted each other or she just became extremely annoyingly lustful. I had turned down opportunities to hook up in the past. I regret turning down the opportunity to hook up sometimes. Im 27, dirty blonde hair, blue eyes, square jaw, 5’7. I have received compliments on the width of my back. I do weights and long distance runs. Im by no means shredded nor fat. I am getting vascular in my arms and in my upper left pectoral. I get acne breakouts at times. All of my experiences were from online dating apps. I don’t feel very confident in myself and I dont really have a social life at all. But right now I seem to be struggling.
You should work on your social skills. Start by making friends with more men first.
Anything else I can work on or that I should consider based on the information I gave you in the multiple replies?
I have dry spells sometimes
Well done on getting to 6k. Is their any particular writing by one of the saints that you go back to regularly to strengthen your faith?
Thanks. I'd recommend reading a wide variety of saints. Their different perfections all show something different about the glory of God.
Hey Will, I believe I often speak to my wife in a mundane way and seen you advise against that.
A lot of my focus is on very mundane, technical things and I’m not sure what topics should be the focus when talking to my wife. Sounds silly to have a checklist for this, but are there top topics to focus on?
Similarly, when trying to navigate talking through my wife’s feelings, I am getting better at naming emotions, but then I don’t know what to do from there. I’ll jump to solving problems but that is not what she’s looking for. However, if I’m not implementing a solution then she will try to implement something and impose on the rest of the family.
Yes, St John Chrysostom warned husbands against speaking to wives in a mundane way.
It sounds like you need to work on being closer friends with your wife so you understand what interests her better and can excite and influence her more.
That's really all leadership is.
I'd need to know your situation properly to advise you correctly. That's what we do the coaching program for.
Congrats on the 6k. I've enjoyed your videos for a while and I admire the road you've taken since your cancellation, you are an inspiration. We are the same age and from the same country but we live very different lives. I, for instance, moved abroad and have very few family members, whereas I believe you've made quite a large family! I hope you are all very well.
1) TRT or natty for a man approaching his 40s?
2) I believe matter is animated by a vital force, but admiring and being raised (weakly) in the Christian tradition, my rational mind doesn't allow me to believe specifically in a Christian God. How do you view this?
3) Have you ever had anxiety? Do you have any thoughts on eliminating it.
4) Would you ever consider returning to teaching within the UK education system?
5) What's your favourite way to relax?
Thank you very much.
1. There's nothing special about nearing 40 for testosterone.
2. Why do you think a 'vital force' is more rational than God is?
3. What are you anxious about? Face it head on, and fix it.
4. No.
5. Walking
Hey Will! Congrats with 6000 subs! I hope to subscribe to you as well!
You’re an inspiration to me! Thank you for sharing the message of what it means to be a strong and Godly man through being a husband and father.
My question is, how do I tell my parents I want to marry young? I have a girlfriend who I’ve been dating since high school (will turn 23 this May) and I want to marry her next year.
For context, I don’t think my parents will approve my decision because “I’m too young” and “I shouldn’t take life seriously” but to “enjoy life and travel, and spend my earned money” and marry until I’m my late 20s, because “marriage and having children is a trap”
I don’t think it’s because of finances; because I earn a lot for my age and am confident in excelling in my career; and I don’t think it’s because I’m not mature enough either. I’m confident I can take the pressure of being a father and husband by God’s grace and guidance, and they know I’m striving to be holy and competent.
What I believe is because they’re attached to me (especially my Dad); and don’t want me to leave and be independent.
Tried my best to shared the context of my question - God bless to you and your family!
Thanks, Nico.
I think you know how to tell them -- just say you're getting married. That's easy to do.
What you need to figure out is why their disapproval might bother you. What are you afraid of in that regard and why?
Hey Will! Appreciate the prompt response; that’s a great insight
I don’t think I’m afraid of my parents. I honestly think Mom is expecting for me to get married. Rather, I feel pity for my Dad specifically — he isn’t the best patriarch; Mom always carried the burden in our family, earned more, and lead, since they got married. As a result she doesn’t really respect him, and I’m afraid if I leave, both of them will separate and eventually divorce.
I know I’m not responsible for their happiness, marriage, and the state of their soul, but it breaks my heart once I leave, they’re “stuck” with each other.
I believe that getting married young will perhaps help them in some way because I believe that’s what God calls me to do. Nothing will change much if I stay. But it is hard to have faith in that promise.
Of course, I want their approval, because my culture is deeply family-oriented, and I know if I get the disapproval of my Dad, my whole extended family will as well.
Nevertheless, I think it’s just a matter of practicing courage at this moment. I know I don’t have to complicate, but trust His will for me
So you're not really asking how to tell them you're getting married.
You're actually worried about what will happen to them when you move out.
Yes, you're spot on. I was honestly seeking an answer where I can inform them, while also getting them to give their blessing, AND they'll live happily together. But I have to accept the reality that maybe they won't approve of my decision. Thank you! Please pray that I may have courage and perseverance
You don't need their permission or their blessing.
And the fate of their marriage is down to them, not you.